My dad died three years ago. With this time perspective I can easily say it’s been the hardest emotional experience I faced in my life. But the amazing thing in life is that you can learn a lot from rough experiences if you take the time to look back. It took me three years to be able to do that.
One of the things that I’ve learned from that experience is that I loved my dad, and I think he was a great man; however I realized that I have never really been grateful about that. Not everybody has the chance to have a loving father, who guides and supports you through your young life. I had this chance but I never expressed my gratitude or even actually simply thought about it.
I’m a grateful person generally speaking, but this made me realize that I was mostly grateful for things and situations, but not for people.
Now I’m trying to acknowledge peoples contributions to my life and wellbeing and be grateful about it while they are there.
The other thing that struck me when I lost my dad is how much legacy matters. Not the material one, everything material fades one day, what lasts with people is feelings. So I’m talking about the emotional legacy; how much people lives were impacted by your presence here on earth. I was impressed by the mass of people who showed up at my dad’s funeral. They showed up because they cared for him, they cared for him because he cared for them at some point in their life.
I want this; I want to have a positive impact on people’s lives. I want my life to matter because I helped others. I want people to show up at my funeral, because I think that would mean I cared for them.